Scenario: A woman wanted to get married. The couple had plans on how it should play out.
Parents offered their help but decided to take control of decision making to the point that they were making unilateral decisions.
Daughter to be wed complained because they were deviating from the original plan of a private civil wedding where few will attend and a church wedding where lots would attend.
Parents disagreed because they wanted to decide how the plans would work out, considered her disrespectful for insisting on what she wanted for her wedding. They also, unable to accept that they were at fault, decide to pin the blame on the daughter's groom as the primary cause of disturbance. They withdraw all support including the judge to wed them. Their help, it seems, is conditional to them having control of things. But it gets better! They THEN told the relatives that it was the bride who didn't want to invite people, slandering their daughter in the process to clean up their conscience. What an amazing tale! Question: Are the parents justified in seeking to control and assert their own designs despite the designs of their daughter? Are the parents seriously practicing respect and love for their daughter through their actions? Were they right to pin blame on someone else rather than to reflect on their own selfish actions?
Lesson: Nobody needs or wants toxic drama in their lives. Parents should know better than to hold hostage their support to get their demands. Parents should respect the wishes of the daughter and ask before making unilateral decisions. Granted that they disagree with how it should play out, but it's not their wedding. For them to immaturely respond with emotional blackmail, a complete withdrawal of support and to pin blame on someone rather than to actually try help the daughter make her wedding dreams come true, it shows the kind of love being practiced. When the center of your life and role model is a god that says "Do as I will or I leave you in hell or oblivion." You know how the worshipers will act.